'You Do You' Feminism: Lesbian, Bisexual, and Queer Women's Perspectives on the Dildo

Historically, feminists have engaged in a contentious debate about the dildo. Some assert that it is an oppressive tool of the patriarchy whereas others proclaim that it is a practical means of expressing lesbian, bisexual, and queer women's sexuality. To gain some perspective into the current status of this debate, seven non-heterosexual women were interviewed about their attitudes toward dildos. Interviews were examined using inductive thematic analysis, and viewed through the lens of social constructionism. Rather than taking sides in the dildo debates, participants embraced a you do you ideology (i.e., there is no "right" or "wrong" answer when it comes to choosing whether to use or not use dildos). Three themes clustered around this overarching ideology: dildos are optional (a la carte dildo), meanings of dildos are contextually and phenomenologically determined (contextuality of the dildo), and dildos have theoretical implications (critically conscious queers). Participants' eschewal of the binarized debate about the dildo may be entwined with changing understandings of feminist, gender, and queer theory.