Exotic compact objects with soft hair

Motivated by the lack of a general parametrization for exotic compact objects, we construct a class of perturbative solutions valid for small (but otherwise generic) multipolar deviations from a Schwarzschild metric in general relativity. We introduce two classes of exotic compact objects, with "soft" and "hard" hair, for which the curvature at the surface is respectively comparable to or much larger than that at the corresponding black-hole horizon. We extend the Hartle-Thorne formalism to relax the assumption of equatorial symmetry and to include deformations induced by multipole moments higher than the spin, thus constructing the most general, axisymmetric quasi-Schwarzschild solution to Einstein's vacuum equations. We explicitly construct several particular solutions of objects with soft hair, which might be useful for tests of quasiblack-hole metrics, and also to study deformed neutron stars. We show that the more compact a soft exotic object is, the less hairy it will be. All its multipole moments can approach their corresponding Kerr values only in two ways as their compactness increases: either logarithmically (or faster) if the moments are spin-induced, or linearly (or faster) otherwise. Our results suggest that it is challenging (but possibly feasible with next-generation gravitational-wave detectors) to distinguish Kerr black holes from a large class of ultracompact exotic objects on the basis of their different multipolar structure.