Rachael Dixey looked after her civil partner Irene after she was diagnosed with early-onset Alzheimer's disease in 2004. After Irene's death nine years later, Rachael gathered together diary entries and her reflections on their experiences into a book: Our dementia diary: Irene, Alzheimer's and me. In this article Rachael reflects on the slow, ambiguous and multiple losses that come with a diagnosis of dementia.